Does Pocahontas like Depeche Mode?

My daughter love the Pocahontas movie. When we are on long car tips and she is trapped in her car seat she watches it on a portable DVD player strapped to the headrest. She knows every word and even likes to re-enact it with Barbie dolls when she is playing with us at home. If you haven't seen it I'm going to ruin it for you, its past the spoiler limit anyway.

One of the major themes in the plot and songs throughout is: We shouldn't hate one another just because one is "white or copper-skinned". Most of the Native Americans and English in the show think the other group is a bunch of ignorant savages and think they are evil because they are different. Blah-blah, they change their minds thanks to Pocahontas and Disney plays fast and loose with the real story.

Another this my daughter seems to like it 80's music. She asks me to play a particular Dead or Alive song almost daily. After that I play some others to see what she likes. Dance and pop seems to be the thing. One of the songs that caught her attention was People are People by Depeche Mode. She immediately got very excited and said "Daddy, Daddy that's like a Pocahontas song!" Well it took me a minute or so to figure out what she meant. It didn't sound like any of the songs in the movie, they are all much more sedated. What she identified was the theme fighting people because they are different is bad.

I know we all underestimate children's intelligence and thinking skills. Assuming that ignorance of things in the world compounded with lack of experience in life as the reason they sometimes seem like tiny people that just don't think before they do. Its obvious to us that doing this or that will lead to getting hurt or break some thing, but we know that just because we learned it by experience or observation. But it was obvious to me by 2-3 that she is probably smarter than me and has a good memory. Of course that is unless she thinks remembering something like "How did that get broken" might get her in trouble.

But she immediately got the message and decided that Pocahontas would approve of Depeche Mode's idea that we should all get along. God help us when she figures out that she is smarter than us...oh that's right, they call that being a teenager. I might have a few more years of being her hero at everything.

I suppose when that wears off it will be time to let her Mom take over the "child manger" duties.

What? I've been busy!

We both changed jobs, moved to a different city, started a new business (several in fact, one is going to catch on eventually) , but more importantly we have been focused on our daughter the other 23 hours of the day. Now that she is four we can pretty much ignore her and see whats new this season on TV.

Just kidding, she is less needy as far as our time goes, but we still want to do nothing but spend time with her, playing, teaching, whatever, its the best thing. I may have found a rival for an few hours a week though, more on that later. I'll probably start an entirely separate blog for that though. In the meantime work is calling... And here is a picture of us at a Glacier in Alaska, she loves to travel. Ill be adding some stuff from the intermission as time goes by.

She grew up on us!

What happened? Lily became a little girl before I even knew it.


Rainy day at the Beach. We discovered a pond in the woods near our house.

Fashion Model in the making. She always wants her picture taken with flags.

Why is my towel always out of reach when I need it?

So the travel date came sooner than we expected and with a shorter notice than we planned for. We got the word Friday that we needed to fly to Vietnam on the following weekend. I begin to realize I don't have all my things together. I haven't gotten any bottles! I haven't finished reading the 6-12 month chapter in the parenting book I got a few weeks ago! Some of my vaccinations aren't scheduled till after that! My FMLA isn't approved to start till later! How am I supposed to have documentation of the adoption before I can travel to DO the adoption! I have to go get some special bug repellent to prevent "dengue fever" or some other scary hemorrhagic fever type thing my doctor says I can get from the "day-time biting mosquitoes" or the other thing from the "night biting mosquitoes"! The bugs are working in shifts to get me! 32 hours of flights to get there! Tickets cost WHAT! It rains how many inches there? What do you mean FEET not inches! IPhone wont be out for 6 months! My name isn't Luke and I'm certain your not my father! Where is that towel? Get me some duct tape stat to keep it around my head for the next 18 years...

Recreating paperwork

There are tremendous amounts of paperwork to get for an adoption in order to create a dossier. I'll post more on that later. Most of it requires official originals, which must be notarized. These must then be taken to the Secretary of State to receive an official appostille, meaning the Secretary of State certifies that the notary is valid. Once that is complete, all of this is mailed to the Vietnamese embassy to have them authenticate the Secretary of State's stamp. Once this giant stack of paperwork is sent back, you send it to your adoption agency, and it goes off to Vietnam. In theory if all was fine with said dossier, we should have had our referral and been to and from Vietnam before Tet week (which starts Feb 17). However after all of this stamping and authenticating, and after checking multiple times, our I-171H form "didn't arrive." (The I-171H form is yet another story). I personally don't believe this as I have 5 copies of the dossier that were made at Fedex/Kinko's right before I stuffed the mailer with the dossier. The adoption agency received the dossier. Their Vietnam counterparts recieved it. The orphanage received it, and we received our referral. But at the last minute the document suddenly "didn't arrive." Since they received every other document, and all the documents travelled in a bundle, this sounds like lost-in-process to me. Nevertheless it's not to be found. So we have had to repeat the notarization, apostille, and authentication process for this document. We needed to send updated medicals (getting those are their own story) and criminal-records-statement from the local chief of police (the easiest part to get by far), so we would have repeated this chase of notarizations, certifications, and authentications anyway, but still it was frustrating to lose this document. Its loss means we probably won't travel till March, rather than February. This week I got a certified copy of the original, notarized it, and apostilled it, and tomorrow I will FedEx it so that we can finally get our travel date assigned. We think 3-4 weeks, and we'll have this. I'm going to encourage Julia to post a story about our freaking out about taking care of a baby once we realized "What do we know about taking care of a baby!" or maybe "The reason to NEVER use a UPS store to overnight anything critical."

The Beginning

Two weeks ago on Dec 18, 2006, we received our referral for adoption. Here, we are going to tell the details of how we got to this point and what it was like going through this process. There will be more to come, and in 3 months we expect to travel to bring Lillian Grace Thuy-Van home with us. So be patient while we learn how to put this up here in a sensible form. In the mean time here is a picture of Lily.